Actress Dupe Jayesimi opens up on struggle with childlessness, failed marriage at 60
Abdullateef Fowewe
Ace actress, Dupe Jayesimi has narrated her struggles with childlessness and failed relationships.
In a recent interview with Biola Bayo on her podcast ‘Talk to B’, Dupe opened up about the heartbreaking miscarriage she suffered after her marriage, an event that sparked conflicts and ultimately led to her divorce.
The actress, who clocked 60 in July 2023, said despite numerous medical tests and procedures, she was unable to conceive, which put pressure on her marriage.
Jayesimi shared that her ex-husband swiftly moved on, bringing his pregnant girlfriend into their former home, leaving her crushed by the betrayal.
She also spoke about her struggles with In vitro fertilization (IVF), revealing that the process ended in failure and took a significant emotional toll on her.
Despite the hardships she faced, Jayesimi expressed her gratitude for the chance to help raise many children, though she acknowledged that they have since distanced themselves from her.
She said in part, “When I was pregnant, I was happy. It was later, the doctors observed that the baby was at the back of my womb. It was like I should get swallowed by the ground.
“I questioned God, I shouldn’t lie after so many years. I was 40 years old when it happened.
“My mum refused and said I should adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death. So many children that I have taken good care of don’t even look back to check on me. Is it my younger sister’s kid, or name them?
“For now, I have no other job than theatre, and it isn’t paying like before. May God not let me suffer in old age. It has been seven years since I worked last.
“I did marry when I was pregnant, but weeks after,, I had a miscarriage. Whenever my husband and I wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to demarcate the bed. So our body wouldn’t touch.
“Two weeks after I left my husband’s house, he had a new wife come in immediately with pregnancy. I cried. I am not an alcoholic person, but because of that, I did turn into a drunkard.
“I determined I wasn’t going to marry. I did IVF twice, and it got to a stage where I used to see a drop of blood every evening.
“My father told me I shouldn’t fight anyone over their things: property, money and men.
“I know how it is to be celebrated by your own kids. I haven’t seen anyone to celebrate me before. I had no child of my own to celebrate my 60th birthday. I believe that no one will ever die and get dropped on the roadside. And they say it’s because she didn’t give birth. If there’s still life there’s always hope.”
